Anxious Attachment

Anxious attachment is a relationship pattern involving a strong desire for closeness alongside fear of rejection or abandonment, often needing frequent reassurance.

Definition

Anxious (preoccupied) attachment is characterized by heightened sensitivity to relationship threats, worry about a partner's availability, and a strong need for reassurance. It develops from early and ongoing relational experiences and can be worked on. The ECR-R measures attachment-related anxiety.

What it can feel like

  • Worrying a partner will leave or lose interest.
  • Needing frequent reassurance.
  • Feeling anxious when a partner is distant.
  • Overanalyzing messages or interactions.

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常见问题

Is anxious attachment permanent?

No. Attachment patterns can become more secure over time through supportive relationships and self-work.

How is anxious attachment measured?

The ECR-R measures attachment-related anxiety, reflecting worry about closeness and fear of rejection.

Sources

  • Fraley RC, et al. ECR-R
  • Mikulincer M, Shaver PR. Attachment in adulthood

Last reviewed: 2026-07-02. Screening tools on LuriaLab are for education only and do not provide a diagnosis.