Avoidant Attachment

Avoidant attachment is a relationship pattern involving a strong emphasis on independence and self-reliance, with discomfort around emotional closeness and vulnerability.

Definition

Avoidant (dismissing) attachment features a preference for independence, difficulty relying on others, and discomfort with too much closeness. It often develops when emotional needs were not consistently met. It can shift with awareness and supportive relationships. The ECR-R measures attachment-related avoidance.

What it can feel like

  • Feeling uncomfortable depending on others.
  • Valuing independence over closeness.
  • Withdrawing when relationships become intense.
  • Difficulty sharing feelings or needs.

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Does avoidant attachment mean I do not want relationships?

No. Many avoidantly attached people value relationships but feel uncomfortable with high levels of closeness or dependence.

How is avoidant attachment measured?

The ECR-R measures attachment-related avoidance, reflecting discomfort with closeness and dependence.

Sources

  • Fraley RC, et al. ECR-R
  • Mikulincer M, Shaver PR. Attachment in adulthood

Last reviewed: 2026-07-02. Screening tools on LuriaLab are for education only and do not provide a diagnosis.